Avoid Getting Ghosted Before The First Date
Why do guys invest weeks of consistent communication and then ghost you before the first date? How can I avoid falling into this trap all the time?
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The process of matching, messaging, and meeting offline is arduous enough. Unless they communicate an extenuating circumstance like they’re traveling or tending to a sick relative, someone who chooses to prolong that usually does so because they’re hiding something. That or they are juggling options and keeping multiple in play while they get to know each one.
To be clear: communicating with or dating multiple people is perfectly acceptable. What’s not okay is for someone to intentionally disregard the time and feelings of someone else in the process. A successful multi-dater doesn’t say they want to meet up or plan a second date then drop the subject. They plan the date but give themselves enough time to meet up with someone else while still maintaining momentum.
There are a few types of people that invest a great deal of time communicating only to ghost before the first date.