When He Stalks Your Social Media
What’s up with men who you’ve been intimate with that stop talking to you but continue to like all your photos and stories? One guy helped me build my bed, then was busy on the weekend. Didn’t invite me to anything. Continued to like every photo/story. Not make plans again the following weekend and then when I call him out on his likes, he says ok I’ll stop with the likes. I asked him why he didn’t just say he’s not interested? And he didn’t read the message for hours. So I blocked him.
When someone asks for your socials, it’s for one of a few reasons:
1. To confirm you are who you say you are
2. To make sure you’re not in a relationship
3. To request more photos
4. To confirm you haven’t posted misleading photos
Since men don’t bear the same safety burden as women, the reason most men request access to your social media is likely Reasons #3 and #4. Men get to walk into a first date confident that, should things turn dangerous, there’s little threat to their physical safety. In my experience, men pay more attention to someone’s behavior in order to get a read on them. Their primary concern on the first date is establishing rapport and assessing physical attraction and chemistry.