When He Tries To Use You For Free Therapy
In your experience are men telling you sob stories in the first few conversations a bad sign? I’m in college to become a therapist. I find that when men approach me they tend to unload tons of their baggage onto me right away, like before or even on the first date. It’s very overwhelming. I like to get to know people, don’t get me wrong, but it feels like too much too soon. I personally don’t start opening up about myself until I feel comfortable with someone first. Sometimes I think that because I’m going to school to be a therapist they think that I’m going to give them free therapy. However, I’ve heard other women say men have done this to them as well. It seems like it isn’t just happening to me.
Despite the overabundance of ways people have to make connections, I believe as a society we’ve become more isolated than ever. Especially after COVID. For over eighteen months our social interactions were limited to online communities. Even before the pandemic, lonely people sought and found refuge in online forums and groups.
If you look at a comment section of most social media posts, you’ll probably see at least one person making the original poster’s experience all about them. Some of the more egregious examples are when someone announces the death of a loved one.
I’m so sorry for your loss. My goldfish died two months ago and I’m still grieving. I look at her empty fishbowl and cry myself to sleep.
Is this sad? Absolutely. Is this post about them? Not in the slightest. We know people like this in real life. They’re the ones that hijack conversations and divert the attention to themselves. This isn’t necessarily done to be malicious. Some people are simply don’t know the line of what is and isn’t appropriate to share in mixed company. We can thank social media for that.