When He’s Too Invested, Too Quickly
I met a new guy online. We FaceTimed on a Thursday, had first date Saturday, second Sunday and third Tuesday with another scheduled for Saturday. Every time I see him he asks when he can see me again. There has been great chemistry but I’m feeling overwhelmed. He asked what I was looking for, I said a relationship, he agreed but I’m feeling pressure from him to sleep with him even after I’ve told him he’s moving too fast for me. Am I right to feel overwhelmed? Am I being lovebombed? I am not sure what to do here as I like dating him but have the feeling he may only want to sleep with me.
Given the alarming amount of unavailable people on dating apps, it makes sense that you might get excited when someone exceeds your expectations. They respond in a timely fashion. They tell you how amazing you are. They plan back-to-back dates. They’re a one hundred and eighty degrees turn around from the guys you usually date. They’re not just available. They’re omnipresent, always making their interest known. They’re so all-consuming you might even cancel dates with other men thinking this one guy is so ideal you want to focus exclusively on him.
This is how it’s supposed to be, right?
Wrong. That’s how they get you.