Why Can't She Find Men That Want To Be Friends Before Dating?

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Growing up I had a lot of guy friends. I was a bit of a tom boy. I was raised by my dad. I'm very close with my brother. My town was pretty small so I'd say I probably had an equal number of girl and guy friends as a teenager. When I got to college I found it was so much harder to make genuine guy friends. Almost every guy that approached me was only trying to get to know me in order to date me or to sleep with me.

I'm a demisexual so I would get excited at the opportunity to make a new friend. I have to start out on a platonic level anyway before I become interested in someone romantically or sexually. To learn that guy after guy wasn't genuinely interested in getting to know me for me was frustrating.

This might be because I'm demisexual, but I miss the days where it was easy to have male friends. I'm wondering why it becomes so much harder to find them when you're an adult? I didn't have these issues as a teenager. Thanks so much for all you ladies do! I love the podcast!

Almost every guy that approached me was only trying to get to know me in order to date me or to sleep with me.