I’ve been “stood up” three times this year…
-One guy i met on Hinge had a great first date and he asked for another date
-One guy I used to date and had reached out to see if we could rekindle things so had a plan for a day date
-One guy I met in a bar and asked for my number + proceeded to have lots of fun text banter with, but he didn’t seem to be asking for plans so I suggested doing something and he offered brunch
In each of the three circumstances, I had a date and rough time scheduled, but non specific hour and location. In each of the three circumstances, I didn’t confirm plans the day before (a gut feeling that the guy wasn’t that interested and wanted to see how it would play out). In all three circumstances, it was the guys suggestion somewhere 2-3 days before the event and I had unequivocally and clearly said yes and that I was excited to do something.
In all three circumstances, Day of rolls around and crickets. I only checked in day of hours before the date and never received a text back with the guy from Hinge, and the guy I met in a bar IRL i had texted something banter-y to the afternoon before to get the conversation going, but he never responded.
What am I doing wrong here? I’m being communicative and receptive. Though I didn’t lock in an exact hour and location, i said yes to hanging out and reached out in 2/3 circumstances the day before or the day of so we could finalize plans. This is really starting to hurt my ego. Thoughts on what’s going on?
Just as an FYI: I think you might be confusing being ghosted and being stood-up. Being stood-up means you arrived at a certain meeting spot and your date never showed up.
There are many reasons why this might be happening and most of them have nothing to do with you. The overarching explanation is none of these men were all that interested in the first place.