This is the worst situation to be in. I dated a guy who was BFFs with an ex he was intimate with. They clearly lacked boundaries as he told me sometimes she has negative opinions about his previous girlfriends and he’s had to tell her she can’t talk that way about people he cares about. He also told me there’s ‘things’ he can only talk to her about, they try to meet up every couple of weeks, sometimes they sit around and watch 90 day fiancé together, he wants to kill her ex boyfriend etc. She’s also all over every single one of his social media profiles…including a picture of him and her from Valentine’s Day in 2018 that said ‘Impromptu Valentine #BFF’. Then one of their friends commented ‘Eternal Valentines!’ WTF? Ugh, it was so creepy and I tried my best to understand the situation, even having a discussion with him about it that I THOUGHT went well…but um, he then decided to flake on our 6th date the weekend of her birthday…and then proceeded to ghost me the next week. It was my bad. I should have dropped his ass the second he told me on our 2nd date that their relationship has caused problems in his other romantic relationships.
I think there are caveats to all circumstances. Women bore me with constant chatter. If I start dating romantically, or my male bff does, we make it clear that we are platonic friends and have known each other for years. Older people have opposite sex friends, why not?
I am friends with a man.. we dont talk and text daily, but weekly checking are done and every other week get together for dinner or lunch. Been fri5 for 5 years. As a women in a STEM career, I'm very comfortable with male fr5 a d often have more in common with them. I'm not the girly chit chat type. So I do think it is post a d e doable for me at least to have most5 all male friends. ALL are platonic a d no e were intimate exes
I am not effing around with guys who are boundary free pals with their exes ever again. Nope. Thanking you. Next.
This is the worst situation to be in. I dated a guy who was BFFs with an ex he was intimate with. They clearly lacked boundaries as he told me sometimes she has negative opinions about his previous girlfriends and he’s had to tell her she can’t talk that way about people he cares about. He also told me there’s ‘things’ he can only talk to her about, they try to meet up every couple of weeks, sometimes they sit around and watch 90 day fiancé together, he wants to kill her ex boyfriend etc. She’s also all over every single one of his social media profiles…including a picture of him and her from Valentine’s Day in 2018 that said ‘Impromptu Valentine #BFF’. Then one of their friends commented ‘Eternal Valentines!’ WTF? Ugh, it was so creepy and I tried my best to understand the situation, even having a discussion with him about it that I THOUGHT went well…but um, he then decided to flake on our 6th date the weekend of her birthday…and then proceeded to ghost me the next week. It was my bad. I should have dropped his ass the second he told me on our 2nd date that their relationship has caused problems in his other romantic relationships.
Sorry, not a fan of this topic... moving on.
I think there are caveats to all circumstances. Women bore me with constant chatter. If I start dating romantically, or my male bff does, we make it clear that we are platonic friends and have known each other for years. Older people have opposite sex friends, why not?
I am friends with a man.. we dont talk and text daily, but weekly checking are done and every other week get together for dinner or lunch. Been fri5 for 5 years. As a women in a STEM career, I'm very comfortable with male fr5 a d often have more in common with them. I'm not the girly chit chat type. So I do think it is post a d e doable for me at least to have most5 all male friends. ALL are platonic a d no e were intimate exes