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Today’s podcast episode discusses Tripp, The Dating Coach For Men. He has created three must-ask questions men should ask women on a first date.
1. What's your relationship like with your Dad?
2. How do you deal with stress?
3. What's the longest friendship you've had?
These questions, while seemingly harmless, lack the depth needed for a meaningful conversation. It's important to realize that without the right context, the answers to these questions may not provide the insight you're looking for. Most people, especially those with healthy boundaries, won't reveal their deepest traumas on a first date.
Another snag is bringing up these topics in a way that didn't raise your date's antennae. Your date would know the purpose of the inquiry and give a palatable answer.
These questions have an underlying motivation, and Tripp knows it. They're used to gauge the emotional intelligence and effort a woman will require. With these questions, he's advising men to abandon the thought of dating a woman who shows the slightest hint of emotional turmoil. What these questions reveal is the person asking them isn't self-actualized. If they were, they'd know that human beings are more than the sum of their parts.
A woman might have gone no-contact with her blood family but developed a strong bond with her chosen one. If she has a strained relationship with her father, who's more likely at fault? We aren't born with contempt for our parents. That's usually a result of poor parenting. Why should the woman be responsible for her father's shortcomings?
When it comes to how a woman handles stress, what response would be acceptable? Meditation? Baking? Working out? What if it's to cry or get angry? Will showing normal human emotions disqualify her? It would be whether she takes responsibility for any outbursts that matter.
How many friends does a woman need to be deemed a good partner? What if she only has one close friend? Will that choice be scrutinized?
Asking these questions cannot determine someone's character or capacity for empathy. To determine compatibility, one needs to dig beneath the surface.
People are messy. If that's not something Tripp's audience can handle, I suggest they stay single.
Also in this episode:
Our review of Monsters: The Lyle and Erik Menedez Story and the possible release of the brothers.
Chappel Roan's social media meltdown and the complexities of prioritizing our mental health.
A woman's boyfriend of a year ghosted her and now wants to reconnect.
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