SPOT EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE MATCHES BEFORE YOU SWIPE
Don’t forget - Tuesday Aug 24th - Master Online Dating Zoom Workshop. This is for relationship-focused singles only. We’re going to talk about how to spot emotionally unavailable matches, messaging techniques, common red flags and more.
Ugh. For the fourth time in a month I’ve been banned from posting on Tik Tok. Here’s the video that violated Community Guidelines. It discusses a new red flag men and women should look out for to help determine if their match is married or in a relationship.
I think The Universe is trying to tell me that Tik Tok is not where I belong. I’ll still post there but not nearly as much.
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SEX, ATTACHMENT & WHY MEN LOSE INTEREST AFTER SEX
We’ve heard all about the role oxytocin plays in attachment and how it can cause women to “catch feelings.” (Not a thing.) What we rarely discuss the other hormone involved with pair bonding: vasopressin.
Here are some fun facts:
Men and women both produce oxytocin and vasopressin
Women produce more oxytocin because of its involvement with child birth (oxytocin is a natural pain-reliever as well as help create uterine contractions necessary to give birth), lactation and mother/child bonding.
Men experience the effects of vasopressin more intensely because of how it interacts with testsoterone.
Here’s where things get interesting:
Anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher, PhD states that vasopressin rises after orgasm. Biologist Dawn Maslar states that vasopressin drops after orgasm.
This is a key inconsistency. Why? Because the former confirms that men can get attached after sex and the latter denies it.
Listen to this episode to hear more.
WEEDING OUT TIME-WASTERS
Listen to Tik Tok Creator AsianBimbo69 explain how her time working in real estate prepared her for vetting potential matches and weeding our guys who are going to waste your time.
SOURCES:
AsianBimbo69 Tik Tok - How To Vet Potential Matches So You Don’t Waste Time
Why Men Lose Interest After Sex